Never Settle For Less

Never Settle For Less

michelleO2011

My dear friends, you are beautiful and smart. You embody resilience, grace and gratitude. You are independent, loyal and lovable so never apologize for having high standards, because the people who want to be in your life will rise up to meet them. Never settle for anything less than what you deserve, it’s not pride it is self respect!

There is no passion to be found in settling for a life that is less than the one you are capable of living.” ~ Nelson Mandela

As I Began to Love Myself by Charlie Chaplin

As I Began to Love Myself by Charlie Chaplin

64-what-is-self-love-all-about

As I began to love myself I found that anguish and emotional suffering are only warning signs that I was living against my own truth. Today, I know, this is “AUTHENTICITY”.

As I began to love myself I understood how much it can offend somebody
As I try to force my desires on this person, even though I knew the time
was not right and the person was not ready for it, and even though this person was me. Today I call it “RESPECT”.

As I began to love myself I stopped craving for a different life, and I could see that everything that surrounded me was inviting me to grow. Today I call it “MATURITY”.

As I began to love myself I understood that at any circumstance, I am in the right place at the right time, and everything happens at the exactly right moment. So I could be calm. Today I call it “SELF-CONFIDENCE”.

As I began to love myself I quit steeling my own time, and I stopped designing huge projects for the future. Today, I only do what brings me joy and happiness, things I love to do and that make my heart cheer, and I do them in my own way and in my own rhythm. Today I call it “SIMPLICITY”.

As I began to love myself I freed myself of anything that is no good for
my health – food, people, things, situations, and everything that drew me down and away from myself. At first I called this attitude a healthy egoism. Today I know it is “LOVE OF ONESELF”.

As I began to love myself I quit trying to always be right, and ever since I was wrong less of the time. Today I discovered that is “MODESTY”.

As I began to love myself I refused to go on living in the past and worry
about the future. Now, I only live for the moment, where EVERYTHING is happening. Today I live each day, day by day, and I call it “FULFILLMENT”.

As I began to love myself I recognized that my mind can disturb me and it can make me sick. But As I connected it to my heart, my mind became a valuable ally. Today I call this connection “WISDOM OF THE HEART”.

We no longer need to fear arguments, confrontations or any kind of problems with ourselves or others. Even stars collide, and out of their crashing new worlds are born. Today I know THAT IS “LIFE”!
By Charlie Chaplin

Part 3: The Temptation To Divorce

Part 3: The Temptation To Divorce

The temptation to divorce is one of the worst feelings ever! When you are in a unhappy marriage and are feeling empty and anxious, it’s not a good feeling. If the sex is whack and you’re thinking about having sex with an ex, a movie star or a friend, you are cheating yourself emotionally. Are you feeling grumpy towards your family and coworkers or do you feel like you’re having all types of symptoms and you make an appointment just to complain to your doctor? When it gets to that point where you and your mate have become like room mates and strangers, you have to ask yourself the hard question…Do I want to divorce my mate?

My dear friends, seek help from a therapist, Pastor, Imam, Rabbi or whomever your religious leader may be… Please get couples therapy, before you decide to divorce or fornicate.

“We gain the strength of the temptation, we resist.” ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson

Part 2: After The Divorce Who Is Going To Want Me?

Part 2: After The Divorce Who Is Going To Want Me?

You are shocked and your dreams shattered. You are tired of crying and feel numb inside. You feel worthless, unwanted and lost. You ask yourself, “Who is going to want me?”

Have you asked yourself how to start over again or wondered why did you choose the wrong person? The answer is simple, stop blaming yourself.  Divorce doesn’t mean you are less competent or a failure. Divorce doesn’t mean you’re less desirable. It only means that the relationship didn’t work out.

So my advice is simple… get over yourself! Divorce does not define you. I beg of you to please be strong, it’s the only choice you have. It may not be easy to let go, perhaps you feel guilty or angry. Maybe you were betrayed but, learn to let the negative feelings go. I know you are having an emotional crisis but, force yourself to focus so that you can take care of your future.

What else can you do? You can get support from family and friends. Make them understand that they don’t have to pick a side or place judgment on either one of you, just ask them to be there for you. If you have children, talk to them and assure them that in spite of the divorce, they are still loved. Try not to abuse your body and mind by turning to alcohol or drugs. Sometimes too much partying will make you loose focus and you might do something that you’ll regret later.

The most important thing that you need to know is, everything is going to be alright. Maybe not today, but eventually everything will be alright!

Part 1: My Cinderella Dream is Called Divorce

Part 1: My Cinderella Dream is Called Divorce

My Dear Friend Divorce,

You have come into my life, trying to make me weak. You’ve broken my Cinderella, happily ever-after dream and you’ve made me cry because, I thought that I was not enough. Do you know that you almost put me into a depression? I’m glad to tell you that it didn’t happen!

Honey let me tell you something, there is an old saying, “What doesn’t kill you, will make you stronger” so,  I did what I was taught to do and I leaned on the shoulders of the Almighty. You see I am strong,  I am beautiful, I am bold.  I am a survivor so, I will not settle for less but, I’m thanking you for helping me see the light. You have restored my faith, rebuild my self esteem and I must admit, I have matured.

So my dear friend, I am not bitter at you nor do I hold grudges. I’m going to announce your name so everyone will know. Readers, please welcome the newly happily, happily, happily ever-after, Miss Divorce!

I'm A Survivor: An Open Essay From The Publisher Dior Fall

I'm A Survivor: An Open Essay From The Publisher Dior Fall

I have a chronic illness but, I’m a survivor. My life has changed, my body is weak and my future is uncertain but, I believe in God and trust him throughout all of my trials and tribulations and say to myself, “everything will be okay.” I will not be a victim and I will not be pitied, nor will I nag or beg for attention just because I’m in pain daily. I will get up and go to work and not lay in the bed because then, my body will be crippled.

What can I do to make my life easier? I will make sure I attend all of my medical appointments and try as many medications as the doctor recommends, so that I can get stronger and healthier. I will rise in the morning, after a rough night. My body burns internally, as I walk around like a zombie but again, I will survive. I’m not ashamed or hiding behind this illness, because this is just a test and I shall pass it.

But, I also have a trick for this disease! I put on my makeup, even when I am crying with shaken hands. I brush either my own natural hair or my wig,  even when I am fatigued. I put on my clothes, even when my legs want to fall asleep on me because at the end of the day, I see that I have survived. I make myself beautiful so that I am prepared to embrace each day. It’s like the law of attraction… because I aim to be a survivor, nobody can tell I’m sick!